Considering a multi-partner sex game?

Every couple has friends. However, some friendships transcend the usual family barbecues on a summer afternoon or the typical cocktail hour. Many of us find an attraction to other partners that can best be characterized as flirtatious and perhaps even a bit of a sexual nature. While there is no doubt that most have secretly wondered what it would be like to establish a more intimate relationship with the member of the opposite sex of another couple, few act on it. The norms of most social groups generally prohibit this type of behavior.

The reason for this reluctance generally relates to the fact that a close friendship can be spoiled if a particularly playful member of a group makes his wishes known. However, in the right circumstances, it may be appropriate for couples to experiment with a bolder taste of fun. While indicators that this may be a possibility can be elusive, common signs include a turn in the conversation toward sexual topics, some mild flirtation between partners, and “innocent” touches received from someone other than your partner. Even if these indicators exist, there is still a risk that moving a dinner to a sexier pace will put off some members of the group of friends.

In the event that you and your partner have discussed making your next party a bit more daring, there are a variety of ways to broach the idea with friends. The first is to increase the level of sexy conversation to assess the receptivity of the other partner. Another method is to tell a story about a “you’ve heard of” couple who throw wild parties and may even be in swingers. One of the favorites is asking the group if they would like to play a naughty game after everyone has had a few drinks. A particularly wise friend once said, “Each couple is only three martinis away from being swingers.” A fun way to set the mood is to suggest an alcohol, truth, or dare party game that multiple couples can play together. There will always be some daring members of the group who are interested in testing the limits of everyone’s comfort. Given the reaction to this during the course of the night, it may be acceptable to raise the temperature by introducing a multi-partner sexual game.

Multiple partner sex games require a bit of pre-planning to be done properly. One of the most important elements is sexy and upbeat music. Barry White is definitely not a good idea. Instead, consider a club mix that reminds players of that night of debauchery they fondly remember from years ago. In addition, it is essential to set up a comfortable seating area that facilitates interaction and access to the game board. Remember to dim the lights as they all look best in soft light and create a sexy vibe. Finally, based on the group’s potential for some really outrageous fun, having condoms or sex toys hidden nearby may make sense. Now let’s get to the really fun part: which multi-partner sex game to suggest?

It is quite common for the instigating partner to pull out a sex game designed for individual partners and then alter the rules so that the game works for a group. Unfortunately, this is often difficult and these games don’t spend a lot of time creating the mood or making the experience easier for the participants. As such, suggesting a game where everyone is familiar with the rules makes sense. Consider Truth or Dare, Strip Poker, or Spin the Bottle as possible starters. Also, these games tend to keep things fairly light and as a result are the right approach for a first “game” attempt. Assuming the multiple couples present are very comfortable with each other, you may choose to suggest a swinger game.

Multi-partner sex games and swinger games are essentially the same. The most important element in selecting a game in this category is considering the potential for actual trade between the pairs present. While there aren’t many swinger games on the market today, some assume that everyone who plays is completely on “The Lifestyle” and has no limits or inhibitions. This is fine if you are playing with other pairs that you have played with in the past. However, for those initially exploring the possibility, make sure the game you choose has enough flexibility to accommodate all preferences and levels of participation. A great game will ensure that participants easily control the pace of the game without feeling like “spoilers” if a challenge or question is out of their comfort level. In addition, it is essential that a multiple partner sex game allows the group to regulate the intensity of the game based on the wishes of the more conservative individual. To that end, a great house rule is to state that women are in charge of deciding how much to do and what limits are most appropriate for the session.

Make your next party or get-together memorable and fun by suggesting a variety of partner sex games. While there is some risk involved, you will have a good idea if this is right for you and your friends. Also, be sure to select the most appropriate game for the group’s situation and preferences.