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The real way men surprise the woman they love

Guys I know the struggle, want to give her a gift that will touch her, really show her how much you care about her. I always try to do this for my wife and it takes a serious game plan. She used to think that it was a high-value item that would really surprise her. I realize that men like to keep score, so on a scale of 1-10, a great value item thrills my wife to a disappointing 5.

Now don’t go and click yet. I’m not talking about engagement rings, houses or cars. I’m talking about that expensive diamond necklace that she said she wanted. It’s a nice piece of jewelry for her birthday in the $200-$300 range. Go ahead and get it and see what score you get… maybe a 6. Now his reaction can be pretty loud and excited, but not a 10 on the emotion scale where he stops and looks at you in a way you’ve never seen before.

I don’t know if you study his reaction like I do, but after 19 years of marriage I have a mental record of reactions ranging from 1 to 10. I don’t really keep track, but I use this terminology for the article. But men really like to blow her away, don’t they? I’m going to reveal a trade secret to you now, because I’m tired of ads that say the opposite, trying to convince you that if you REALLY love her, you’ll buy her an EXPENSIVE piece of jewelry. Here it is – RING – INCORRECT.

She may think so herself, but deep down she doesn’t BELIEVE it. I’m not preaching trying to guess it for a moment. I’m trying to deliver the truth. Guys, what will really get her attention is what YOU DO for her. For her, the gift you give her makes more SENSE. Because it has more meaning, it has more value to her. The meaning was reversed by you and your efforts to move her. The sweat equity you put into something for her is your main gift to her. She will appreciate the thought you put into her. Her thinking and her reflection on what you did is the reason why she is so excited. She’s excited all of a sudden and like a ton of bricks will hit her but she won’t go away. Your actual physical gift that you gave her will symbolize your intangible gift and she will remember it for years to come. This is the whole key.

Go ahead and go to the mall and buy her something on the way home from work. She’ll be moderately excited at maybe a 6, and you go on with your life as usual. You did your “duty” so she doesn’t get mad at you for completely forgetting about it. Men, do yourself a favor, drop the charade. Picking up a gift at the mall is the easiest thing to do, and it’s not a cost-effective reminder to your loved one that you didn’t forget a special day for her. So now that I’ve blasted a whole silly idea and the thriving mall jewelry industry, what should you do? Do something for her. But, you need a game plan.

Yes, I already hear the whining. Schedule. This is not something men normally want to deal with as a Christmas, birthday or Valentine’s gift. Planning, you know something that the football team uses to make amazing plays and win the Super Bowl. Planning, what you put on your resume and do at the job that makes you a lot of money. Planning, the management skill you reasonably present to your boss to justify your next big promotion. But no, isn’t planning for your wife or girlfriend’s excitement factor? Yes it is. That is if you try hard to get her excited. So what’s the plan?

Now, remember, you’re putting sweat in here. You don’t need a lot of money. In fact, you’ll ruin everything if you take out a wad of cash and try to make it all go away. This method doesn’t work, you already tried it.

Aim for an end date. I gave his birthday, in 3 months. You know how to push her birthday back three months, right? Okay, maybe not. You know when his birthday is, right? So do your research then. Find out when his birthday is. Call his sister or something. Discover. Ok, now you have his date of birth. Good start. Don’t be mad at me yet. I know I’m digging into your ego here, SHE will thank you later. Just remember that! You now have a 3 month window. Good start.

You have 3 months to execute your new plan. Here’s what you do. So far you have spent 5 minutes remembering his birthday. There is not much problem. Now find a top notch craft to make that you love. “She likes jewelry,” you say? OK then make her some jewelry. “You are not a jeweler,” you say. “No problem,” I say. Now I will interview you for your new craft job to thrill her to infinity.

Q: Do you know how to use the pliers?

A: yes

Q: Have you ever held a pair of pliers in each hand?

A: Maybe…

Q: If you are given two pairs of pliers and some open silver jump rings, could you persuade him to close these jump rings?

A: If I was shown how I think I would manage.

Q: If you were given a pattern for some Chainmaille jewelry that shows you step by step how to make an intricate and rare bracelet, could you handle it?

A: The hand eye coordination I gained from playing video games has given me all the skills I need sir, consider me a quick learner.

Q: Last question, do you know how to surprise your wife by keeping a secret and doing her jewelry project for her when she’s gone for the afternoon?

A: Yes, I can handle that too.

Q: Any questions for me?

A: Where do I get the plans and patterns to make this Chainmaille Jewelry? And how much will it cost me?

A: Wait a minute. I don’t have any tools

Solution: Visit culturejewelry.com, we have what it takes to help you make your own chainmail jewelry.

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