You don’t want to be a glamorous kitty, do you?
Once upon a time, a long, long time ago in the 90’s, we had a dream. It started at the top of our heads with an icy blast and then worked its way down to the D&G dress, Gucci bag and fabulous jewelry that we couldn’t afford but our benefactor Visa seemed to support.
Regardless of the cost, we wanted one thing: to be glamorous. Even if we worked at the local mall selling Hanes boxer briefs, we wanted to look like a movie star. A funny thing happened after the collapse of the economy. My clients are saying words that could have sent you to the style penitentiary a few years ago.
“Tamara”, they bow and trust. “I want to look good, but I don’t want to be too glamorous.”
This is an interesting phenomenon because although women want to be pretty, or even very pretty, they don’t want to be too pretty.
This leads me to ask you: When it comes to looks and style, what do you want? Do you want to be pretty or glamorous? A head turner or a heartbreaker? Or are you still humming that U2 song when it comes to style: “I still haven’t found what I’m looking for?”
I think I can give you a solution to this problem even if your own style has changed since you turned five. You want to be pretty, but more importantly, you really need to take a step towards who you are as a woman. Then the rest will fall into place.
The style is not an exercise in looking like Demi, Michelle or any of these Jennifers or Jessicas floating around out there. Style is about finding the best shapes for you along with the best colors, the best hairstyle, the best clothes, the best shoes… all the best just for you. It’s not about what Reese is doing. Again, it’s about who you are as a woman.
Just a little side note: you might get a little glamorous down the road when you figure this out. Sorry, it’s the consequences of finally finding your unique style. Glamor is that little bag of makeup samples that they offer you with the big purchase. You could turn it down, but why would you?
When you finally discover your true self, how to put it all together and polish what you have… you just can’t stop it. The glamorous, beautiful and sparkling version of YOU will be on display for all to see.
You will become that woman.
You know that women.
She’s the one who shows up at the PTA meeting in black pants, a simple white shirt, a great layered haircut, and she looks absolutely stunning.
Everything you have done seems correct. Her skin glows; Her eyes sparkle and that damn hair swings in the right direction even as she sits next to the air conditioner vent. He is not worried about buying 10 pairs of black pants (because they all fit differently). One really is enough.
He has confidence in his body. Even if it’s not perfect.
This blog is dedicated to finding your best self. It is not about vanity because there is a big difference between vanity and beauty. Vanity is standing in front of a mirror and getting so lost that you can’t go out for air. The kind of beauty we’ll find here is the kind where you say, “This is what I have to work with in life. I’ll do the best I can with it. I’ll own it.”
Take a look at Jackie O. She was never the most beautiful, but with those signature sunglasses, classic cardigans, skinny Capri pants, and that perfect dark mane, she was stunning and classic.
Look at Michelle Obama, who looks so different since she moved to Pennsylvania Avenue. During the campaign, she was beautiful, but now she has a new, rock-solid confidence and has transformed into beautiful. What could be different other than she sent change of address cards?
Answer: She owns her beauty. She wears J. Crew clothes and looks like she just walked off a catwalk.
She’s not a perfect beauty, but most of us would be happy to feel this good about ourselves. By the way, now I find it quite glamorous. It’s just part of the deal.