A move more powerful than kissing, but impossible to turn down.

According to most romantic movies, the beginning of every exciting relationship begins with a kiss. There is a move that surpasses it in effectiveness and that will also leave you exposed and vulnerable to rejection. But let’s back up for a second: the most common wisdom these days about attracting women makes it seem like if you make a woman comfortable with her touch, then you can start a physical relationship.

This is sound reasoning and follows logic, but what this tidbit leaves out is the fact that love and emotions are not a logical construct. I offer you a very different line of reasoning as to why a kiss can be the beginning of a relationship between a man and a woman. There are two aspects to a kiss that make it very viable for boosting a relationship, and it is only because of these two aspects that a traditional kiss is effective.

1. Kissing is an overt physical movement, it shows your physical attraction to a woman. Trying to kiss her makes it unlikely that a woman would have any questions about why you like her. You can flirt with a girl all night, but that can be harmless and fun. Kissing is an overt movement. He can no longer deny that he didn’t know what was going on.

2. Kissing is a physical move that allows her to reciprocate if she shares your attraction to her. Now you are no longer trying to seduce her or get her. You are no longer on separate teams, you end up on the same team.

The process of two people coming together on the same team with mutual attraction is called It’s On Moment. When you think about it, this is exactly why most “traditional” methods of trying to attract a woman don’t work. Asking a woman for her phone number is not an opportune time because getting her number is not physical. On the other hand, simply touching a woman and making her comfortable with your touch does not create an opportune moment because she is not returning the contact, it is not mutual.

I’m sure every time you go to the club you see a bunch of men making fun of women on the dance floor, only to see these same women walk away moments later without even saying goodbye. Why did he leave? Because no matter how they touched or how aggressive these guys thought they were, it didn’t create a mutual physical moment with her. There was no connection and, more importantly, no overt physical movement to show her attraction to her. Therefore, it is most likely that she does not even remember that she danced with him at the end of the night. So here’s the moment you’ve been waiting for, what move is MORE powerful than kissing and so covert that she could never turn you down for it?

mutual hand caresses

The mutual caress of hands is so powerful because it creates a feeling of the type “we are a new couple” within her. Endorphins? Check. Dopamines? Check. They are now officially on the same team. They are working together. This is what a new couple naturally do with each other; play with the hands of others, etc. This magical moment also makes it more likely that she will continue to comply with future physical escalations and requests; the comfort created during mutual caresses triggers her feelings of security while she is physically with you. So how do you use this to create an It’s On Moment?

Too easy…

1. Take her hand
2. Hold it for a few seconds
3. Start by stroking her hand gently until she returns your touch.

The key is that you want to quickly go from holding hands to cuddling. The reason you don’t hold his hand for long is because women associate “holding” with men being needy. Instead, leave your hand slightly open and give him the opportunity to brush away or stroke your hand. Keep in mind that holding hands will not create the same powerful feeling as mutual cuddling.

This is THE easiest AND most consistent way to get to the It’s On moment. That’s because the easiest part of your body for her to feel comfortable touching is your hands. Think about it. A woman is not going to start stroking your legs randomly. Most guys spend all their time worrying about touching her. Instead, make it easier for HER TO TOUCH YOU.

By holding her hand first, we are only speeding up the process of reaching a moment of mutual caress. Don’t be the average guy who leaves this moment to chance. Remember that it is up to YOU ​​to make this moment happen.

What if she doesn’t take my hand or pushes hers away?

Unlike going in for a kiss and getting rejected, if she doesn’t take your hand, you can just ignore it and try again later. You see, her rejection of your advances in terms of holding hands can never come true unless you acknowledge that you made an effort to climb up to her and failed. Compared to an all or nothing move like kissing her, there is simply NO comparison to hand caressing each other, because these are the ONLY possible outcomes!

1. She withdraws her hand, you know she has a bit of work to do before she tries again, but make no mistake, this will always work as a fair indicator of her level of interest in you.
2. If she doesn’t withdraw her hand, but she’s still not petting you, you’re in a good place! She teeters closer and closer to the edge of being FULLY ON between the two of you.
3. There are mutual caresses. Congratulations, you are OFFICIALLY ON!

Here are more things to ponder about the advantages of caressing hands versus going for the kiss:

* You have infinitely more possibilities to easily caress the hand than to give a kiss.
* You don’t have to create a perfect moment to test it
* Mutual hand caresses are easier to do with other people around
* You don’t have to leave her alone first
* If you gain resistance, it requires absolutely no damage control – it’s a true test of where the two of you stand
* Does not reduce tension and keeps you in an aura of challenge

A woman’s hands NEVER lie.

Uninterested women will go so far as to let you TRY to kiss them. Of course, she will walk away from her and give you the ceremonial cheek. She can even pretend to be shy so as not to hurt your feelings. But one thing uninterested women will NEVER do is pat each other’s hands. You will notice that she will not caress your hands when you caress hers. She has no problem laughing, smiling, and keeping eye contact with you. That’s because all of these things are easy to fake. Mutual hand caressing is the only thing that isn’t. She will repel it.

Holding hands is something only people who really like each other (i.e. new couples) do. And if she does not like you, the lack of a hand to caress you back will be a clear indication that you are with a woman who is not very attracted to you. That’s why you always go for her hands first. Because I have a secret for you. Given enough time and the repetition of the previous tactic, as long as she’s still around… The It’s On moment IS INEVITABLE!

Once you’ve created an It’s On Moment by following the above, the ENTIRE FIELD is open to you and all the doors to taking interaction to the NEXT level are unlocked.