Can Life Training solve the Communicates equation?

We live in an amazing time when it comes to technology. If Sam Houston had Life Training and our technology, help would have come in time for the Alamo. A few quick emails to patriots across Texas and Santa Anna never would have stood a chance. We can instantly communicate with millions of people around the world at the same time. That is really extraordinary.

But there’s a big difference between “making contact” and actually Communicating… isn’t there? The word “communicate” carries with it an idea of ​​making sense and being understood.

Exchanging words does not necessarily mean Communicate. This is what I mean. Some people who have been in car accidents have been asked to summarize exactly what happened on their insurance form. The following quotes were taken from those forms:

o I collided with a parked truck coming from the opposite direction. The guy was all over the way; I had to swerve several times before I hit it.

o I had been driving my car for forty years when I fell asleep at the wheel and had an accident.

o My car was legally parked when it backed into the other vehicle.

o The pedestrian had no idea which way to go, so I hit him.

o The telephone pole was fast approaching. She was trying to get me out of her way when he punched me in the forehead.

And here are some ads that didn’t communicate well…

o A magnificent and economical restaurant. Good food served by knowledgeable waitresses in appetizing ways.

o Dinner-Turkey Special $2.35; Chicken or Beef $2.25; Children $2.00.

o Now is your chance to get your ears pierced and get an extra pair to take home too.

o We do not tear your clothes with machinery. We do it carefully by hand.

o We build bodies that last a lifetime. Offer expires December 31 or while supplies last.

o For sale at reduced prices-men’s shirts with minor damage.

Let’s discuss some basic “how to’s” of good communication and life coaching.

Good communication begins when a good relationship is established. Rapport is a mutual feeling of being in communication. Have you heard the expression “we were on the same wavelength?” That was the report.

Here are some basic elements in the process of good communication and Life Formation.

1. The speaker is like a radio transmitter. She is sending a message… it can be a verbal or non-verbal message.

2. The listener is like a radio receiver. They are getting the message.

3. The message is some kind of information. The goal of communication is to deliver this message.

4. Then there are the distractions that can make communication difficult. Distractions can cause misunderstandings. They can make parts of the message not get through. Sometimes these distractions are our own preconceived notions or filters that cause us to have a wrong interpretation. They act like static. We don’t have a clear signal when there are distractions.

5. And finally, there should be an acknowledgment that the message was heard and a reply or feedback to the message to make sure it was received correctly.

Several years ago, Fred Rogers thought he was about to get his big break when a major network asked him to meet with him and discuss the possibility of syndicating their local children’s show. One of the network executives asked, “What kind of costume will you be wearing for the show?” Mr. Rogers told the man that he didn’t need a funny costume to communicate with children.

People at the network disagreed, insisting that anyone hosting a children’s show must have a costume. So, the meeting ended and the network decided to pass on the opportunity. Obviously, it was a big mistake. PBS picked up the show and children’s television has never been the same.

He knew that it was not the suit that would Communicate. Was the! Here is another “ebyismo”. People buy your music, not your words.” Although we need to strive for excellence… we need to learn to speak as clearly and eloquently as we can… we need to know that communication goes much deeper. Life Training is all around us, just notice and be aware.

I’ve read that 75% of people who buy an expensive item… buy it because they like it and trust the seller. So, people want you to communicate truthfully with them on a verbal level…and communicate truthfully with them on a non-verbal level. They want to know what your heart has to say. When we speak from our hearts… it will cut through the “static”. It will amplify our signal. And it will leave no room for misinterpretation. Now that is Life Training and effective communication!