Choosing a song for your wedding dance
You picked out your dress, decided on the food for the reception, ordered the flowers, and even got promises of good behavior from feuding relatives. Now you are faced with the task that you have been putting off for months. Choosing the song for your first dance at your wedding.
If you’re like many couples, choosing the song for your first dance can be a lot more difficult than you thought. You and your fiancé may have completely different tastes in music, or maybe every song you like the other hates and now you don’t know what to do. If your difficulty choosing a song has been spread by rumors, you’ve probably also had family and friends constantly suggesting songs until you just don’t want to hear about it anymore. But the DJ keeps calling and you know you can’t put it off much longer. Then let’s get started.
The first thing you and your fiancé should do is work separately. Each of you should make a list of 20 top dance songs that you like. You can easily find many first wedding dance song lists by doing a web search. Many of these websites also have short sound clips to refresh your memory if you can’t remember the song. Don’t be surprised if songs you’ve completely forgotten about will grab your attention.
When you meet to compare your lists, start by putting an “X” next to the songs the other doesn’t like, an “O” next to the songs the other is open to, and a star next to the ones you are open to. the other likes them. Even if you and your fiancé have been having a hard time picking out a song, since you each have your own list to start with, you might be surprised to have a few songs that you both like. If so, it will be easy to choose a song at this point.
If you don’t have featured songs on your charts, you’ll need to take them to the next level. First, both of you need to have a commitment mindset. Each must make a new list with only the songs that the other is open to. Then swap lists. Number your fiancé’s song list in the order of her preference, with number 1 being her least disliked song, and so on. Don’t rush through this. It may take both of you a day or so to do this. Once you have your numbered lists, take the first two of each list and choose a song from those four.
There is also a much more direct and fun way to choose the song for your first dance, if you feel like it. The contest. The winner takes all. That means the winner can choose the song he wants. Oh yeah. This is serious. You will have to choose a contest: it can be anything from rock, paper, scissors, through Scrabble, to a game of tennis. Be sure to bring your “A” game. You know you can win this.