Difference Between Anger and Bitterness
There are so many emotions that you can experience and so many feelings to express. I hope the negative ones are fleeting and the positive ones strengthen and renew you daily. Unfortunately, people will hurt you and do things that are unfair, causing you to feel anger, frustration, and resentment. These feelings can be long-lasting and difficult to release.
Why did this happened?
Anger is something most people are familiar with, but the concern is not to let it fester where there is a risk of bitterness. You may be angry, but bitterness is something you carry with you at all times. Bitterness keeps you trapped in the feeling, making it hard to let go. It remains in your mind and spills over into all aspects of your life. People may find you moody and arrogant and want to keep their distance. You, on the other hand, may not even care.
Anger can be healed through forgiveness, but bitterness may be beyond your ability to absolve. While chronic anger is bad enough, chronic bitterness is worse. It can be more destructive, contributing to marital discord and physical distress.
Bitter people are their own worst enemy because they are filled with paranoia, cynicism, and mistrust. They often believe they are the victims of a profound injustice and become obsessed with revenge and retribution.
What can you do to prevent it?
1. Acknowledge if your anger has gotten so out of proportion that you can’t focus on anything else. Ask yourself if this feeling is worth all the energy you are putting into it. Are you really prepared to continue living like this and endangering your own well-being and that of your loved ones?
2. Recognize that you may be pitting “yourself” against “them.” This requires a lot of awareness because sometimes you can be very stubborn about who to blame for your life. The bottom line is that it is not a contest. No one is aware of your bread except you. Therefore, change your attitude and decide if this bitterness is putting your life in a good place or not. Do you feel any kind of satisfaction seeing yourself as a victim?
Ultimately, you don’t want to avoid living life because an insensitive person wronged you. You don’t want to stagnate and get stuck in a mindset that causes you to be a bitter and resentful spirit. The difference between a moment of anger and a lifetime of bitterness is the desire to break free from the thrall of hurtful hate.