Forced Male Chastity – Fantasy or Reality?

A common fantasy that you will often come across is forced male chastity. Although the details vary, these variations are really variations in style, not substance.

Usually the man has asked to experiment with orgasm denial or something similar, his wife or girlfriend has reluctantly agreed at first, but has grown to like it so much that he is now “forced” to stay locked up, unable to do anything about. and if she does, she’ll either divorce him or something equally drastic.

The fact that all of these stories are essentially the same is enough to tell us that they are simply not true; and a moment’s critical thinking will tell us beyond a shadow of a doubt that they are not only unlikely to be true, often simply I can’t be true.

The most powerful argument against the concept of forced male chastity is that there is no possible way to prevent a man from cutting the belt or the device.

The unbreakable and inescapable device simply does not and cannot exist.

Thus, any man kept in chastity is kept there by his consent. He keeps the belt or device on by his own conscious choice.

Now is Some women may threaten dire consequences, such as divorce, if their man refuses to wear a chastity belt or removes it without permission.

But let’s think about this critically, too.

What benefit would a woman derive from this? Divorce is complicated and expensive, and in the end she would be trapped in a position that her threats were intended to avoid: she would not have a chaste man under her control (because she would be single).

From the man’s point of view, I can’t imagine why he would want to be with a woman who views enforced male chastity through the lens of emotional and psychological abuse. Aside from everything else, a man weak enough to accept that kind of treatment is not the kind of man any woman worth the name would want around, unless she herself has serious self-esteem issues and feels the need to rise up by trampling others.

So, since reality is either physically impossible or existentially undesirable for everyone involved due to all the associated emotional and financial consequences, why would the idea of the forced male chastity so common and, frankly, so exciting for both?

Good…

Like most problems, it’s more exciting if it’s done FOR you than if it’s done FOR you.

Why else are bondage, domination, and sadomasochism so common? The psychological reasons are many and varied, and no doubt complex.

And, in truth, we don’t have to understand them to enjoy them, and a common way to enjoy them is “power sharing.” We pretend we’re doing things to us against our will, but really in the larger context of the game, even if at the time we resist, we have accepted the rules and given our consent (that’s why you have to safe words – to tell the other player that the game must be stopped, even momentarily).

So why does all this matter?

Well, for starters, the truth does matter. And it’s important in particular to men and women who seek to play with enforced male chastity only to be faced with stories that are enough to scare anyone into celibacy.

But you can rest easy: it is is just a game and unless you are crazy or reckless or mentally unbalanced you can stop the game and change the rules if you don’t get what you want from it. You cannot be locked in a chastity belt and held there against his will if you are a man, and if you are a woman, you cannot force it without his consent.

And if you are so callous and cold that she would insist on forced male chastity regardless of her feelings and would threaten to divorce him if he refused, then perhaps you would benefit from examining your broader relationship and maybe even seeking professional help.

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That being said, the game It can still be a lot of fun, and the illusion of compulsion and a lack of choice and determination is very powerful and realistic. For example, in our game rules, John has given me full control of his orgasms, and we’ve both communicated openly and clearly and we both understand what that means.

Now at this time we are awaiting delivery of a new chastity belt and my intention is, after he has become used and acclimated to wearing it, to keep John in forced male chastity and orgasm denial for at least a full year.

Does this mean that you can’t escape if you want to?

No.

Does it mean that if he In fact I can’t stand him for whatever reason for so long, I’ll blow my head off, get mad and divorce him?

Of course not.

Because the goal of the whole lifestyle is to improve our marriage and our relationship, to get closer, to give us a better sex life and more intimacy. To make this life too short even more exquisite and exciting than it already is.

And you can’t do that if one of you is miserable, unhappy, and you keep him that way with the gun of divorce pointed at his head. So yes, forced male chastity is a fun game. But don’t take it too seriously and assume it means you have to play it to somehow “win” at all costs.

Because while you may not count or care about the cost, willpower pay the price.