Relationships: Can a lack of emotional intelligence cause someone to cheat?

There are a number of things that can have a negative effect on a relationship, and while some of these things may be the result of what’s going on inside, there may be others that are due to what’s going on on the outside.

When it comes to the former, it may be due to an inner conflict, causing tension between what is happening between two people. On the other hand, when it comes to the latter, what’s going on externally could be creating tension.

A new opportunity

Let’s say, for example, that one of them has been offered a promotion; the downside is that he needs to relocate. One of them can then rejoice that luck has come to him; what they will not have liked is that they will have to move to another place.

Still, after some consideration, they may be willing to move elsewhere to further their career. However, the partner may not agree to this and may not be interested in moving anywhere.

a great decision

Up to this point, your relationship could have been sailing and going from strength to strength. Now, thanks to something positive that has happened in one of their lives, it will be a different story.

If one of them ignores himself and accepts what the other wants, it could lead to a lot of resentment. Then it may seem that the problem has been resolved, but it will have sunk in and this could mean that the relationship will gradually fall apart over time.

another result

On the other hand, if one of them is willing to accept what their partner wants and deal with the conflict within them, their relationship could continue to go in the right direction. If this were to happen, it would likely show that this person has a good relationship with her emotions.

Therefore, instead of suppressing how you feel and acting as if you no longer feel the way you do, you will embrace this part of your being. This can be painful in the short term, but it will serve you well in the long term.

Part of life

Then a curveball will have been thrown at your relationship, but you will have been able to handle it gracefully. Their connection would have been proven but not because one of them had done anything wrong.

However, if one of them cheated, it would mean that one of them has created a problem. It is not then that a challenge has been put in front of their relationship; is that one of them has created one.

Hidden

At the same time, there is a chance that your partner may not realize what has happened. As it is, then, one will be able to keep what has happened to oneself; thus, allowing the relationship to continue normally.

Perhaps your partner senses that something is not right, they just can’t put their finger on it. It might also not be accurate to say that one has created a problem since the relationship might not have been working.

a regular occurrence

In this case, there would have been a problem and this would have caused them to look at someone else. So while this may appear to be an example of an external problem, it is not.

Also, one may not have been alone once with another person; this could be something they have done on several occasions. One will then have shared his body with several different people.

The solution

When it comes to their relationship, one might have a tendency to feel ignored, alone, unwanted, and rejected. Spending time with another person can be a way to calm down.

What this may illustrate is that they are finding it difficult to manage their emotions and that there is a lack of open communication in their relationship. Going with another person could be something that happens almost automatically.

performance

One can also behave this way in the hope that their partner will actually realize that something is not right. This will then be a childish way for them to work out what is going on in their relationship.

The problem is that while the childish part of them may see their behavior as justified and hope that this will cause their partner to change, it is unlikely to lead to this outcome. The reason for this is that her partner is not her father; they are someone with whom they are in a relationship.

A Different Approach

If you had a good connection with your emotions, were able to regulate them and were able to talk to your partner about how you felt, you could have been able to gradually resolve what was happening to you. Seeking outside support if they hadn’t been able to do this would also have helped.

But if this didn’t work, you may have come to see that it was time for you to cut ties with the other person. This would have been difficult, but at least they would have been able to create the space for someone suitable to enter their life.

Awareness

If one can relate to this and no longer wants to behave this way, they may need to seek outside support. What they may find, if they were to go into this, is that the pain that arises in their adult life goes back to what happened during their early years.

Working through this pain will make it easier for them to deal with how they feel and allow them to develop a better relationship with their emotional self. This support can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or healer.