Women drive the need for dating and romance
Without sex, there may be friendship between adults but there is little physical and emotional intimacy. Heterosexual women depend on men to provide this sense of passion and connection to another adult. Platonic love is loving and caring. Sexual love (or reciprocal sexual love) can be more intensely emotional (at least in the beginning). Women experience this phenomenon by cooperating with a man’s sex drive.
When a woman is affectionate with a man, she interprets it as a desire for sexual intimacy. This is because he is aroused by her physical proximity and assumes that she responds sexually in the same way. A woman is usually not willing to have sex the first time she meets a man. Her kindness grows as she gains confidence that a man’s devotion can last beyond a single opportunity to have sex. By accepting a man’s sexual advances, a woman shows her love for him and is rewarded with her gratitude.
Gay men can become close to each other and, with little more than a brief acknowledgment, begin to engage in sexual activity. Straight men don’t have the same freedom. Unless a woman is offering sex for money, most women need some sexual orientation. It is not just a question of attraction. Women need to feel secure in order to trust a man enough to be intimate. This is because there are some very dangerous men who take advantage of women.
Men judge women primarily on their attractiveness and ease of having sex. Women need to be much more careful when evaluating the character of their partner. Some men will attack, rape, and even kill a woman. Men do not have this contradiction in their dealings with women. To survive, women must be more socially mature than men. Women should also be less sexually motivated. They cannot base their relationships with the opposite sex solely on sexual criteria as men can. Most women take longer than men to choose a lover because they expect more than just good looks.
Women don’t experience arousal like men. They have a different mechanism that creates a feeling of intimacy. Women love men who are interested in them. Most women need to feel an emotional connection before sex feels appropriate. This emotional connection arises when a woman is attracted to a man who can see that he is motivated to take care of her. This is not a conscious exchange. It is a subconscious response to feeling admired, which assures her that a man will protect her (from other men).
Women all over the world enjoy the emotions they feel when reading romantic stories. These focus on the period of time before a man and a woman become an engaged couple. A woman enjoys the experience of a man showing his admiration and devotion. These feelings are much more intense than a child feels for his parents. But they are not as strong (in the sense of urgency rather than long-lasting) as a man’s genital drives.
A man’s interest in a woman arises primarily from his sexual drive, at least in the first instance. Young women may assume that male admiration is evidence of a man’s undying love. This is not always true. A more cunning or experienced woman may delay the show of approval to find out if a man’s intentions are long-term. There is a certain logic in a woman that makes a man expect to have sex at first. Men seem to value sex more if they have to push themselves for it. Hard-to-get sex feels more like a conquest for a man than if a woman simply shows up to him.
Men worry about what they can do or say to impress a woman and get her into bed. This is why they get frustrated when a date doesn’t result in sex. An experienced woman knows that any relationship with a man involves an ongoing commitment to offering regular sex. So even though it’s only one time, it’s usually the first of many. A man more or less assumes that the arrangement is in progress. This makes the first time a much more important decision.
Men’s confidence is largely bravado. A man uses innuendo to flatter a woman to passively agree with him. A woman likes to know that she has a man’s attention and that he is interested in her. A woman expects a man to show her the same respect that he shows his boss. She hopes he wants to impress her as much as his colleagues. She hopes he is as motivated to spend time with her as he is with his male friends.
The secret of male courage is to act and not think too much, otherwise doubt and fear set in. It doesn’t help men to be good defenders if they always have empathy for the enemy. However, this instinct does not help men when it comes to relationships with women. A woman wants to understand a man’s motivations, his values, and his morals. That is self defense. A woman wants a lover who is loving, interesting, and has a sense of humor. Throughout a relationship, a woman needs a man to communicate his motivations to her so that she can trust that he does not take advantage of her love.
So what turns her on? … A man who makes her feel ‘safe’ and treats her like she’s a vital part of his own existence, and not just a favorite sperm dump. (Yangki Akiteng 2015)